Anyone who has been pregnant has had one of those experiences. That time when someone says something so totally absurd about your pregnancy that your jaw literally hits the floor. You cannot imagine how these people get through life on a daily basis when such total and utter stupidity can come out of their mouths. Even worse is that the majority of these comments come from women who have also endured the 9 long months of pregnancy and the emotional hurdles that go along with it!
We all loved when people commented on our weight, judged our decisions and constantly told us how we were going to harm our child before they were even born….because we weren’t freaking ourselves out enough – we for sure needed their assistance in pushing us right over the edge! Well sit back and enjoy some doozies! These will knock your socks off! (on a happier and more positive note – check out these super cute Gender Reveal Party Ideas!)
Thanks to all of you for for submitting your “stupid things people say to pregnant women” on my Facebook page! I sifted through and pulled out the best of the best (and I couple I wanted to include, but just couldn’t…. they were SO not okay!!)
- I am going to start out with one of my own! I was pregnant with my third. I already had two beautiful boys. A work colleague asked me if I knew what I was having. “Yes, it is a boy!” I answered excitedly! “Oh No….I am SO worried that will happen to my daughter too!!”
Here are some of my great reader responses! All anonymous, of course!
- “I didn’t do an epidural because I love my baby.”
- While I was pregnant with my 3rd child my Mother-in-law introduced me to someone and proceeded to tell them that this was my 3rd and final. Umm who made her boss over how many children I will or will not have?
- One guy asked if I had double checked with the doctor because it looked like I was having triplets… talk about a meltdown moment
- “Are you pregnant? AGAIN! Like mom said, you can teach ignorance, you can’t teach stupid.”
- “Wow! Your tits and ass are huge!” (from a 74 year old male patient of mine)
- A guy walking behind me didn’t realize I was pregnant, when he walked passed me he said, “oh wow, You should put a sign on your back that says WIDE LOAD!”
- “Are you having twins?” “No I’m not having twins.” “Are you sure?” No I’m so stupid I have no idea how many babies are in my stomach.
- “Aren’t you a bit big to be that far along?”
- When I went to my first Ob app. The nurse asked a list of questions. The stupidest, “do you and your husband have sexual intercourse?” I looked at her, then my belly, then her again. I said uhhhh yeah…..
- A woman I never met blurts out,”you’re pregnant?!” I just stared at her and someone said,”well yeah!” She retorted with,”I didn’t know, we all carry weight differently.”
- Not to take a bath or the baby will drown.
- “How much weight have you gained?”
- Some told me that I didn’t look pregnant and wanted to know if I was only faking the pregnancy to marry him and get his money?
- My favorite one wasn’t actually said to me, but to my husband… and from his mother no less… she asked him, actually had the audacity to ask if he was even sure that the baby was his.
- “It’s nice because you’ll still look pregnant after you have the baby, so you can use the pregnancy parking.”
- “You’re pregnant again? You don’t need to have them so close together cause you can’t spend enough time or love with them.”
- From my Mother-In-Law “Maybe you’re wrong..maybe u’re not pregnant..you shouldn’t be pregnant before my other daughter-in-law”
- “You don’t look old enough to be pregnant. Are you going to keep it?” I was 20.
- “Is it a boy or a girl?… Oh.”
- Someone told me that I was going to be in a wheel chair when my daughter graduated from college… I was gonna to be a old mom!! I was 23 when I had her.
- “Was it planned?”
- While shopping with my other children and pregnant with my 3rd…”you didn’t learn the first two times how babies are made?” Then pregnant with my 4th… “Don’t you think you have enough kids?”
- “Are you pregnant or just bloated?” I was about 32 weeks pregnant at the time.
- “I knew you were pregnant when I saw you in March,” Except I wasn’t pregnant yet.
- I was on the table waiting for my c-sec with my twins. I was talking to the NURSE and telling her they were boy/girl. Then she asked me “are they identical?” I said not when we change the diapers. You would think a nurse would know better.
- “You look better with a little fat on your face.”
- We all get this question over and over… but I ADORE this answer – “What’s it going to be?” I told one person I was hoping for a puppy they didn’t look impressed
- From my husband…on mothers day….”eeewwww….why are your nipples so dark?”
So…what have we learned here? First of all, be very careful with what you are saying to pregnant women… a foot in the mouth comment will stick with us far longer than you would ever think. AND, being on the receiving end of these comments is part of the badge of motherhood… it happens to all of us. Just nod, smile, walk away ….. and blog about it later!!
P.S. What is the stupidest unsolicited parenting advice you have received from a stranger? See some of our readers answers here! You won’t want to miss them…trust me!
Had the baby? Check out this one!!!
My MIL told me that as grandmother, she believes she has a right to veto a name if she doesn’t like it. She was dead serious and looked shocked when I told her we wouldn’t be telling ANYONE what name we choose until the baby is here and named. Sigh.
I was clinically obese when I had my first born. Determined to get my weight under control to be the active mom I wanted to be, I worked hard and list 130 lbs.
When I was about 7 months pregnant with our second child, my mother in law stopped me and said, “you are getting SO FAT!”
English is not her first language, so I’ve always hoped it was just a language flub.
Oh my gosh! I was shaking my head and laughing! LOL Years ago someone close to me said I was too skinny to get pregnant…yeah I was not happy, no one appreciates comments like that when they’re trying to have a baby! LOL 😀
I am the mother to 7 kids…mostly grown now but I remember those comments while I was pregnant the one that everyone thought was so funny (I was not laughing) “don’t you know how that happens” or “is you TV broken in your bedroom” BUT the worst comment I EVER had was while I was working. I was a manicurist and owned my own salon in Las Vegas, NV with my mom and sister. We had 14 ladies working for us and it was a BUSY Saturday afternoon. The place was hopping and I was pregnant with baby #6. I sat by the couch where women waited for their manicurists and I often chatted with the women there. One day someone asked how I was feeling and I said fine but ready for baby to come. The lady on the couch asked if it was my first and I said no it was my 6th. She curled up her nose like something smelled bad and really loudly asked how I can afford to feed all those kids and how do I afford clothing (I am a sarcastic type and can let alot roll off me but not this) the salon got really quit as this woman continued on her high horse. She stated I must be on welfare (I was not) and on and on….THEN she had the gull to say “I hop you don’t plan on having anymore” being the sarcastic type I said with a very straight face that I planned on having 4 more and went back to my work. She sucked in her breath and I could hear her talking to her manicurists about me the whole time. She loudly asked one more time how I afford to feed and clothe my kids so I looked at her and stated ” I don’t dress my kids they walk around butt naked and as far as feeding them goes we send them out to dig in the neighbors trash every Monday and Thursday nights (trash days)and that is how they eat during the week…..I also informed her that I work full time and therefore no one but my hubby and I pay for our food we feed our kids. That was the worse thing anyone had ever said to me.
I work at a bank and a lot of weird old men come in, when I was pregnant with my third one man said oh why are you sitting that isn’t allowed (he has no clue what is “allowed”) I replied with when you have three kids then tell me I can’t sit down…he then said oh you’re pregnant, it ain’t mine…I said no no it’s definitely not…I thought my male co-worker and friend was going to jump the counter and strangle that man! People can be so rude!!! I also get oh you should be on 16 and pregnant, never have I been 16 and pregnant! I’ve been 20, 21 and 25 and pregnant haha I guess that will benefit me when I look great at 50! And since I’m “so young” I also get do you know who the dad is? Uh yes my husband, thanks.
I had lunch with a group of friends and acquaintances. I announced to them that I was pregnant and one of the girls just exclaimed, “ugh, I hate children.” She’s an idiot and I never talked to her before this and still don’t.
When I was pregnant with my 1st child my MIL told me that I could not have a baby shower until after my baby was born. She said she was not going to risk wasting money on a gift for a baby that might not make it.
My MIL told me I was ruining her sons life when we had our 2nd…….and our 3rd……..wonder what she will think about our 4th?
My grandfather also announced to everyone at thanksgiving to please eat before me because I was as big as a horse and ate everything it sight……I had lost 40 lbs due to morning sickness!!!!!
When i was 6 mo. pregnant i had just started showing i have a small frame but i am tall and have always been very thin also my uterus is straight up and down (most women’s are tilted forward) but people would ask how far along are you i would tell then and they would look shocked and i would always hear “Is it healthy for you to be that small?” Sorry old lady i don’t know i don’t really feel like discussing the abnormal position of my uterus with you :{ I also always got told you need to gain weight … i was eating like a horse….
Right after I had my 2nd son, my husband’s aunt walked into the room and we announced it was a boy (we didn’t find out until he arrived) she promptly yells, Oh it’s the curse! We are cursed with boys, no one is ever going to have a girl in this family. Um I hardly thought my brand new son was a curse!