All moms have experienced it. You are standing in line, on the subway, at a party, eating at a restaurant… doesn’t matter where, but it has happened to each and everyone of us. A stranger gives you unsolicited parenting advice. Right, wrong or indifferent – it doesn’t really matter – we didn’t ask for it, we don’t want it – we are the parents, please just let us parent!!

Stupid unsolicited parenting advice

Not long ago, we started talking about getting pregnant and the really unthoughtful and more importantly, unsolicited comments that people feel the need to say to already uber emotional pregnant women. (You can see those stories and comments here – Stupid Things People Say to Pregnant Women).

This led to the next stage in life, parenting. You are tired, cranky and overwhelmed…. the perfect time for a perfect stranger (or maybe not a stranger) to tell you how you should be parenting your child…right?!

I asked all of you for the stupidest unsolicited parenting advice you have received and let me say, you did not disappoint – far from it!

You all had my jaw hitting the table on more than one occasion! Thank you for all of your submissions… I would have loved to use them all, but you all would have been reading forever!!!

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Stupid Unsolicited Parenting Advice…. these were statements that were actually said to people!

People ACTUALLY said these things OUT LOUD to a parent! Wow…. just wow!

said no mom ever

That you shouldn’t say “No” to a child… that you should distract them to change the behavior or “suggest an alternative”. As a mom of teens now, I can say that teaching a child to respect the word “no” at face value is one of the best things you can do for both of you.

“She doesn’t need that thing in her mouth” referring to her pacifier.

I was told that colic wasn’t real and that I just needed to burp my baby more often.

“Don’t breastfeed your baby too much…..breast milk is actually your blood. You are feeding blood to your baby..”

“Never let baby sleep with you, never hold or give them to much and practice cry it out from birth.”

“Breast milk is “useless” once menstrual cycle returns” – complete stranger by the way!

The best unsolicited parenting advice I have heard is:
A) my daughter was playing with trucks in dirt and one lady said that I should probably get her more involved in “girl” activities so I wouldn’t have to deal with gender confusion and same-sex attraction when she was a teenager.
B) That having my kids so close would cause all of them to have emotional problems because I couldn’t give them the attention they needed.
C) By not having my son circumcised, there is evidence that he will be more prone to same sex attraction.

“Just hit or pinch them to let them know you won’t just meet their demands.” My baby was two weeks old. Are you kidding me??!!

“Wrap that baby up in a blanket, or he’ll catch a cold.” It’s July. 95F. I’m sweating; he’s sweating.

After my son had a difficult flight and cried some “next time you should give him Benadryl so he doesn’t cry the whole time”. Needless to say I almost slapped her for having the audacity to suggest I drug my child.

“You should take her home now, she’s tired” ..why thank you random stranger in a shop; it is just 3 in the afternoon and we’ve only just left the house! She was a baby BTW!

“You not allowed to make your child cry”. I was told by a lady behind the deli, this was after one of my 3 kids decided that he does not know what he wants for lunch and when I made my mind up for him he burst in tears.

“Only women on welfare breastfeed .” Yup, that was my mother-in-law. Operative word being WAS.

“You hold that baby too much, you’re going to spoil her!”

“You shouldn’t tell him he’s adopted”. He’s a different race than us. Lol ! I think he will figure it out.

My friend has twins born on different dates 5 min before midnight and other 5 min after, also different star signs, she told somebody and there reply was are you sure you are a parent as twins can’t have different birthdays and you shouldn’t of had any kids if you think twins have different birthdays

“You should keep your kids inside when it’s raining.”

“I spit on my nipples before I breastfeed….that way the baby gets antibodies” — my FORMER sister-in-law.

My little girl “scooted” instead of crawling. A lady told my husband we had to stop her from doing that because it would cause other developmental problems. Let me add that this was an older woman that had never had children! Ridiculous! My daughter is 6 now and smart as a whip!

“Stop calling her baby or she will never grow up.”

“I wouldn’t wish triplets on my worst enemy”…With a close second of “I would kill myself if I had triplets”

When my son was 2-ish we were in line at grocery store and he wanted corn nuts, not having enough teeth at that age I say no he thirties himself on the floor starts a fit and the lady behind me offers to buy them for him and said I was mean!

“You should get your son on Ritalin now….mark my words, he has ADHD.” He was 3-ish at the time and at a birthday party where all the kids were running and playing around.

When my daughter was a few months old I had an old lady in the grocery store ask me how I liked being a big sister

Regarding have only one child
1.) But you have to have one of each!
2.) You do know accidents happen? (As if we don’t thoroughly understand how sex and baby making works.)
3.) You’re not a real parent if you don’t have at least two.
4.) That’s selfish of you. Your son will have no one to play with.
5.) Don’t you like being a mother? Don’t you like your child?

I was having a hard time breast feeding and someone told me that if I was going to be a stay at home mom I better figure it out because there’d be no point in me being a stay at home mom if I didn’t.

“Don’t reach above your head like that, you’ll wrap the cord around your baby’s neck!”-coming from a mother of 4.

Let me say first my son has SPD (sensory processing disorder) this causes him to act out when he’s over stimulated (a LOT) it’s something you roll with you can’t punish it out of them. So that said. “if that were my son he’d be spending a LOT of time in the time out chair”

An older lady witnessed my 3 year old having a tantrum at the grocery store, came over to my daughter, and told her, “if I was your mommy, your little tush would be sore from a paddling right about now.”

Now…. share what the BEST parenting advice you ever received? That’s right – let’s share the GOOD advice we have received!!

See our post on Stupid Things People Say to Pregnant Women 

Stupid Things People Say to Pregnant Women

Jennifer Fishkind

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  1. Stopping by from Creativity Unleashed Link Party. Yikes, these are horrible! Sadly most of the advise I got was from other mothers, I’m like WTH is wrong with you people. My favorite might be from the “ex” MIL. Thanks for sharing, I needed a good laugh!

  2. I either raised my son in a different kind of area or I just looked meaner than most people because i never had any strangers give me advice about my baby! A couple of well meaning (and stupid) relatives maybe but never strangers!!
    I am truly appalled that anyone would hand out parenting advice to someone they didn’t know!! I don’t even give it to people I do know!! 🙂

    1. The worst part is, it’s usually someone who doesn’t HAVE kids that give the advice. They don’t know the situation, come in at a bad time and think it’s right to yell at the parent. Some people should mind their own business, ya know?

  3. One time when we were camping, we were sitting out at the pool and my step-son decided to get mouthy with me. My husband (and I) don’t tolerate disrespect. Well my step-son wanted to keep it up so my husband grabbed him by the arm to take him into the bathroom and have a more private discussion with him rather than yelling at him in front of the other families at the pool. Well a little old lady followed him into the bathroom and told him she was going to report him for child abuse. He told her to mind her own business.

  4. Good advice I received was from my husbands Baba, “hold them when they cry, hug them and kiss them as much as you can, they will not be babies long” how true is that! We have wonderful, loving kids that are great to be with, they are 11&14.

  5. This didn’t happen to me, but one of my aunts, way before spanking became child abuse, had her son in a clothing store. Well, she kept telling him to stop playing on the escalator or he would get hurt. Of course, he didn’t listen and she grabbed him and popped his butt. Some random stranger saw her spank him and went up to her, saying that she shouldn’t spank him, that it was abuse. My aunt’s response was; she picked up her son and held him up in front of the woman and asked, “Do YOU want to deal with him?!?” The random stranger walked away quickly after that. This was way back in the late 80’s mind you.

  6. I have six children. My choice.
    Favorite comment: You know what causes that?
    You bet I do and it’s awesome stuff!

  7. When my 4 year old son and i was in the store and we were walking past the toy part of the store this women that was about in her 50s had came up to use and said your son has some very pretty eye i was like thank you he gets it from me then in said his dad has some very nice eyes too then my son had saw this toy that he had wanted i had told him no then he started cry and jumping up and down then the woman picked him up and hit him then she said no no then said that he was a bad boy like he was some type of dog. Me being 20 and hardheaded i graded my son then i punched the lady then called my boyfriend and told him to pick us up. Till this day i still remeber her now i am married and im prego with my first girl and i was like i am im going to tell my story. I am planing on telling my son this story on his birthday. I give birth may 24th.